In today's digital age, midlife women find themselves in a unique and often overwhelming situation. The constant connectivity and the pressure to stay 'on call' can be a real challenge, especially with the added responsibilities of managing a family and social circles.
I, for one, can relate to the feeling of being constantly connected. With a large WhatsApp group, voice notes from friends, and the worry of not hearing back from my elderly mother, my phone has become an extension of myself. And now, with my daughter growing up, the need to be available 'just in case' has only intensified.
What makes this particularly interesting is the contrast between International Women's Day and the Global Day of Unplugging. While the former celebrates women's achievements and equality, the latter encourages a digital detox. As a digital wellness expert and feminist, I find it intriguing that unplugging can be seen as an act of rebellion and empowerment for women. It's a chance to reclaim our time and energy, and to prioritize self-care in a world that often demands our constant attention.
My journey into digital wellness education and coaching has been eye-opening. During my research trip to Silicon Valley, I realized that adults, including myself, struggle with phone usage as much as kids do. As a trustee and leadership coach, I understand the endless demands of modern life and how rest often feels like a distant dream. We need to be intentional about our tech usage, but it's a challenging task when we're so reliant on our smartphones for various reasons, from staying connected with loved ones to managing work and personal responsibilities.
One aspect that stands out to me is the concept of 'kinship care.' As women, we often take on the role of maintaining social bonds, ensuring the fabric of society stays intact. However, the always-on digital culture has blurred the lines, leaving us feeling pulled in a million directions. We scroll mindlessly, seeking temporary escapism, but the unspoken expectation of immediate availability takes a toll on our energy levels and overall well-being.
So, how can we rebel against this constant connectivity? By unplugging, of course! Switching off our phones, even for a couple of hours, is a radical act of self-care. It allows us to put down the weight of our responsibilities and reconnect with ourselves and our loved ones. Whether it's a nap, some quiet time with a book, or a fun activity with family and friends, these moments of respite are essential for our mental health and overall happiness.
I've compiled some tips to help you unplug and reclaim your digital freedom:
- Keep your phone out of the bedroom. Buy an alarm clock and charge your phone elsewhere to avoid late-night scrolling or early-morning checks.
- Create screen-free spaces or times. Start with dinnertime; leave all devices in a designated area to encourage face-to-face interactions.
- Delegate and communicate. If you're worried about being uncontactable, inform your dependents about alternative ways to reach you in an emergency.
- Simplify your tech. Consider using a basic phone or downloading apps that limit your phone's functionality during certain times.
Remember, taking a break from your devices is not a luxury; it's a necessity. Give yourself permission to unplug and recharge. Your well-being deserves it!
